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How do I ask Better Questions?

Sam Knowles, a data researcher (and a classicist with a doctorate in psychology) wrote Asking Smarter Questions in 2023 and in his final chapter has a list of those he considers to be the best.

The Journey of Heartstyles and The Sozo Foundation

Non-profit organization The Sozo Foundation, based in Cape Town, South Africa, has committed to creating opportunities for underprivileged young people in its township community called Vrygrond (free ground) through education, skills development, entrepreneurship, and social enterprise, since 2011. This “small” community of less than a square mile is home to more than 50 000 people with no high school, no clinic, no police station, and very little hope.

How do you listen?

Did you know that there are 4 different types and ways of listening? From a Heartstyles perspective, active listening is an art that needs practicing not just in the workplace, but in our personal lives too. It is central to increasing engagement and building stronger, happier teams. It says, ‘I value and respect you’.

Author

Andrew St. George – Heartstyles Accredited Associate

How much is enough?

In Heartstyles language, not perceiving that we have enough, can be a symptom of living outside-in, where we seek approval and validation from others. This is a “below the line” place of competition and striving. The alternative is to live inside-out, knowing our value and worth. A place where we have moved “above the line” to a place of authenticity and achievement.Joseph Heller, an important and funny American writer (author of Catch-22) and his friend Kurt Vonnegut (both now dead) were at a party given by a billionaire on Shelter Island in the northeast of the USA.

Kurt said: “Joe, how does it make you feel to know that our host only yesterday may have made more money than your novel Catch-22 has earned in its entire history?”

Fear and Indolence

In Swamplands of the Soul the psychologist James Hollis sets out what for many of us are the all too familiar places we might get bogged down: guilt, grief, loss, betrayal, doubt, loneliness, depression, despair, obsession, addiction, anger, fear, angst, and anxiety. That is quite a list, and yet it would be an unusual adult who has not passed through - at some stage in their life to date or to come - one or more of these “swamplands.”

Resilience & Self-Respect

In 1961 Joan Didion, an American journalist, wrote this in Vogue: “In brief, people with self-respect exhibit a certain toughness, a kind of moral nerve; they display what was once called character… the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life…”

Stoic Wisdom

This advice comes from Marcus Aurelius (121-180), a Roman emperor, general and scholar. Marcus Aurelius’s writings – his Meditations - are part of the canon of Stoic thinking (including those of the Roman playwright Seneca and the former slave Epictetus).

Author

Andrew St. George – Heartstyles Accredited Associate

Intention Impression Impact

We all know about the phenomenon law of unintended consequences in many parts of political and commercial life.  A policy or strategy is intended to achieve one end, but produces quite another.  This is at work in our personal lives too.  We can have the best intentions, but then can make an awful impression, and can have a poor impact.

Author

Andrew St. George – Heartstyles Accredited Associate

Think about the future

Let’s think about the future. It’s the one thing we all have in common; yet it will be different for each of us; and clearly life is lived forwards and understood backwards; and we have to learn from the past in order to design the future.

Starting well

I love all beginnings, despite their anxiousness and their uncertainty, which belong to every commencement.

So wrote the Austrian poet Rainer Maria Rilke (1875-1926). The beginnings of any project, journey, enterprise or change are beset with exactly those worries that Rilke identifies.